Wednesday, May 26, 2010
If at any time you find it necessary to correct your brother, do not correct him with mud - never, on any account, throw mud at him, because it will spoil his clothes. It is better to scold him a little, for then you obtain desirable results.
If your mother tells you to do a thing, it is wrong to reply you won't. It is better and more becoming to intimate that you will do as she bids you, and then afterwards act quietly in the matter according to the dictates of your best judgement.
Good little girls always show marked deference for the aged. You ought never to "sass" old people unless they "sass" you first.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
The other night was the usual chaos where you need about 10 hands to do all the things that need to be done for bedtimes. Aaron was outside finishing tasks, and I was inside trying to put 4 children to bed at the same time. I do not recommend this.
Jonathan looked up at me with his saddest face and said, "You never have time for me anymore!" And I just about broke in half. I finally realized, "Okay. I am one woman. I have 4 children. They will all need to simply wait their turn."
I got Hope down first, then told Greg we could finish our Battleship game after everyone else was in bed. I helped Jonathan brush his teeth, gave him extra cuddle time in bed, read a short book to Daniel, put him down, then joined Greg upstairs. And the funny thing is - they seem to get it. They (hopefully) are developing patience and understanding in our family of six.
When I start to have a pity party for myself and think I'm short-changing my kids, I am always reminded that God loves them perfectly and brought them into this family for a purpose. There are struggles in each and every family, not just the ones with more than 1 or 2 kids.
And it reminds me that I am sooo not perfect and can only do the best job I know how. Giving myself grace -- as one of my friends mentioned the other day (thanks Rachel!) -- is VITAL to mothering, VITAL to living with others and growing in Christ.
I can't cradle Greg anymore, but I can cradle a couple of other kids in this house for awhile, and I plan on doing it as often as possible, as well as giving myself small doses of the grace God has lavished on me.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Monday, May 17, 2010
Hope at the park -- it's amazing how much more mobile she is this year. Didn't need my help much at all!
Stopping at DQ to see our favorite cone maker -- KK!!
When we got home, the boys were playing baseball in the front yard with neighbor buddies. Daddy pitched and kept everything civil, for the most part.
After a full week of rain last week, we were all drunk with sunshine and warm temperatures. As I watch my kids enjoying the weather, enjoying life, I remind myself,
these are the golden days
Monday, May 10, 2010
Tuesday, May 04, 2010
I'm talking about being Mrs. Reid - the teacher. Over the past few weeks, my mind has gone back about a decade to when I answered to "Mrs. Reid" on a daily basis. It's hard to remember when I didn't answer to "MOM!" all the time.
I'm remembering what it was like to stand in front of a room of teenagers and try to engage them in a poem, a story, a grammar rule. I loved the challenge and the drama of each day.
Now, I find myself excited about going back to the classroom after so long. Starting this fall, I'll be teaching part-time at Community Christian School (where my 2 oldest attend) - 9-12 grade English.
As I look back over those old yearbooks and some old notes from my days as a young teacher, I realize what an amazing ministry teaching truly is. I pray God will help me to balance the roles of wife, mother, and teacher in a way that glorifires Him!
"Education is not the filling of a bucket, but the lighting of a fire." -William Butler Yeats
Sunday, May 02, 2010
Thanks so much to my Aaron for allowing me an opportunity to recharge my batteries. Mamas are rarely offered a day off. You truly must make time to get away and have a moment of quiet. Like one of my friends commented, "It's fabulous to wake up and not have to "be" or "do" anything right away." So true! And it also helps you simply appreciate the children and family you have, just by stepping away from them for a moment.
I invited women who wanted to scrapbook for a couple days to come with me. It was an amazing time of refreshment and fun! The photo above is the downstairs retreat area with the dining room, kitchen, and three bedrooms.
This is the work area where we scrapbooked together. There was room for about 8 or 9 women to work. The front of this old church is now a small area with couches, a coffee table, and a stereo. We brought our delicious breakfast up here Saturday morning and ate there in the sunshine.